Must sleep. Can’t sleep. Must process.
Base premise: ancient world based on Honor/Shame explicit. Modern world: still based on Honor/Shame, but mechanism is hidden, occluded, considered alien.
Samurai Face World: Honor is gained by playing your role well. “Know your place.” Hindu beggars crippling themselves to be better beggars is a sort of self-parody of this. In general, though, slaves should be good at being slaves, masters at being masters, and so forth.
Modern World: Read on some dating advice blog ages ago (with ties to the Pick-Up movement) that step one for introverts is learning social interaction, and step one in that is picking some public activity (like buying a shirt) and treating it like a role: you are the movie extra known in the script as “Shirt-Shopper #1”. Concept: play your role well, and you cease to be creepy (remember: the site was giving dating advice).
Side note: Vehemently reject the ends pickup artists pursue. Gained respect for their concepts after watching 17 Again. Movie mocks pick-up by having the heroe’s side-kick strike out when he attempts ‘peacocking’: dressing and acting garishly to attract the interest of a hot girl.
I laughed too. “Ha, ha, what a dope. Women don’t fall for that.” A year or so later, I reflected that my first girlfriend was an 8, easily the cutest girl in the choir, whereas I, physically, am about a 5, but I got her to fall head over heels for me by wearing a cloak and swooping up and down hills. Joke is on the writers. Peacocking works at least some of the time.
Thinking over my life, I could have probably had a hot girl on my arm 90% of the time. I actively passed over several opportunities because I judged them not conducive to my future goals (or my religious beliefs, more often). Peacocking works almost every time, at least for me. OTOH, I didn’t know I was Peacocking — there was a level of authenticity born from the fact that it wasn’t actually an act.
End of side note.
Main point: Honor is accrued by assuming an accepted role within your range of available roles, and playing that role well.
This becomes the foundation of one’s authority in human matters.
“Nerd-in-a-corner” is an accepted role for tech-types and accrues honor in accordance. That is, my word has weight among nerds; particularly those who crave tutelage in the skills I possess. A message board moderator will come to me for animation advice; a Pixar dude will not.
For a person of the world, this will suffice. I am not of this world.
I have, or ought to have, a role within a church body. Which, in turn, requires playing a “church-goer” or “church-member” role.
Part of my Monday schedule was to be devoted to spiritual pursuits. A ‘tithe’ of time and creative effort. A YouTube catechism or some such. Let each give according to his gifts. If he teaches, let him teach. & c.
Part of the issue is this concept of renewal: studies in efficiency and productivity show that a person who does not devote time to spiritual pursuits is less productive than a person who does (even if the religion is false. Calling Axiom.) In theory, I would be a better writer/coder/whateverer for spending time working for a transcendent cause.
I would call it the classic mistake of monasticism, but that would be unfair to the monks who, at the very least, ministered to one-another.
God will bless my spiritual gifts or he will not. If he does, will it not be within his designated matrix? So let me lay aside thoughts of an animation series; if that is where God wants me to go, then I shall find myself there by following his road.
Thus, if I am to be the person God intends me to be, I must be rooted in a church. Thus, I must wear the hat of the church-goer or church-member, and so far as my morals permit (and they will probably permit far), play the role to the hilt. I will then accrue Honor in accordance to my performance, and from there, my contribution will flourish or not.
Jesus grew in wisdom and stature and in the favor of God and men. Far be it from me to attempt otherwise. (He also retreated into the wilderness from time to time. But for now, let us focus on what we are neglecting rather than what we are overdoing).
This, in turn, leads to several other conclusions.
- I need to attend a church within my effective range, so that I can be available for socialization opportunities outside of regular church-attendance hours.
- I need to develop some social skills outside of the set useful for my professional aspirations.
- To the hilt.
I think I can sleep now.